When our self-esteem is low we tend to notice anything that helps to prove our negative beliefs about ourselves and discount anything that disproves them. We notice anything that we are unhappy with or don’t like. This might range from how we look, how we act or any simple mistakes we might make.

All of these ‘faults’ seem to jump out at us and we end up focussing on all the things we think we’ve done wrong and we don’t notice the things we’ve done well!


Helen Lyon is a qualified counsellor, offering one to one counselling sessions with individuals aged 18 + in South Bristol.