In the last few months I’ve been feeling ok and have really let my morning routine slip. Gradually I have noticed my worry and busy head starting to return. This has really ramped up with all that is happening it the world at the moment and so I have been disciplined and reinstated the routine!
I think now more than ever having a routine in a world that is changing quickly and constantly is important. Why? A routine can bring you a sense of stability in these unstable times.
My morning routine goes something like this:
- Wake up and spend a few minutes writing in my diary. I write down 3 things I am grateful for; it might be the morning weather, the good sleep I had or the friends I have in my life.
- Then I spend 20 minutes exercising to get the endorphins going and give me a sense of achievement early in the day!
- I follow this with a 10 minute meditation, I really enjoy the meditations on the Calm app, they’re easy to follow with no pressure to clear your mind of all thoughts.
I find this simple start to the day leaves my mind feeling less anxious and overwhelmed. I also remind myself regularly that these are anxious times and it’s ok to feel that way.
To finish my day before I go to sleep, I go back to my diary and write down 3 good things I experienced today; one of them is usually coffee and now a facetime with friends is making a regular appearance along with finding things, like my earphones!
What is a panic attack?
A panic attack is a rush of intense physical and mental symptoms. They can be very scary and come on quickly for no apparent reason. There are many signs of an attack, which may include:
- A Sense that something bad is going to happen
- Your heartbeat quickening
- Your breath becoming shorter and faster
What can you do when you feel an attack coming?
A typical panic attack can last between five and thirty minutes, but some have been known to last up to an hour. They can happen very occasionally or a few times a week.
- If you feel able to let a colleague/friend know (you may find it useful to let them know you have panic attacks before you have one so you can let them know what does or doesn’t help when they happen)
- Breathing techniques, slow calm breathing can help to steady your nervous system.
- Don’t fight the attack, remember the attack will pass.
- Try a grounding technique such as the 54321 method.
How can you prevent further attacks?
- Exercising regularly helps to reduce stress and anxiety
- Try relaxing therapies such as yoga or aromatherapy
- Daily breathing exercises
- A healthy diet avoiding alcohol and caffeine, as they are known to increase feelings of anxiety
- Talking to a counsellor about your feelings
Try to be kind and patient towards yourself, this is a struggle and it’s not your fault.
Self-care is a word that gets bandied about a lot but what is it? It’s something we should all be doing, it’s vital to your wellbeing, helping you live a full life being able to manage stresses and strains and avoid feeling rundown, but what is it?!
It has been defined as taking action to preserve and improve your overall health, physical and mental. It’s a practice (yes, a practice it will take time to embed it into your life if it’s not something you currently do) and once you master it you will reap the rewards! It’s about finding something that makes you feel comfortable and relaxed, that takes you away from the pressures of everyday life, even if just for a few minutes a day.
Sometimes practising self-care might mean having to say no to people, that might be at work or home. Maybe you find you’re over stretched because you can’t say no to helping people. Try to remember that sometimes it’s ok to say no.
Your physical health is important, do you get enough sleep or take enough exercise? Maybe it’s time to go to bed half an hour earlier, take a short walk on your lunch break or try a new physical challenge.
How about your brain? Do you challenge it? Maybe you could learn a new language or practice mindfulness. Look at your beliefs and values, exploring them and seeking understanding can help to improve your self-esteem. Try to adopt a positive mindset.
Try to cultivate self-compassion for yourself. Have an awareness of your feelings and emotions and try not to beat yourself up because you’re struggling to get yourself out of your bad mood. Accept that your feelings are not you; your feelings are data and you can choose how you use this information.
Spend time with supportive friends, who you can share with as equally as they share with you, this is vital to helping you look after yourself. Your friends can help you feel a sense of belonging and acceptance. Try to share with them what is really going on for you and encourage them to do the same.
Looking after yourself can lead to feeling of empowerment giving you confidence and a feeling of satisfaction. Self-care will help you manage mental health problems, however it’s not an instant solution and will take time.
Some things you can do for self-care –
When our self-esteem is low we tend to notice anything that helps to prove our negative beliefs about ourselves and discount anything that disproves them. We notice anything that we are unhappy with or don’t like. This might range from how we look, how we act or any simple mistakes we might make.
All of these ‘faults’ seem to jump out at us and we end up focussing on all the things we think we’ve done wrong and we don’t notice the things we’ve done well!